Tuesday, January 17, 2006

Woman or Girl, doesn't matter WE need to hold up this world!

I want to share a HUGE pet peeve today. It's about women in general, I keep saying that we're all cats! So quick to turn on each other instead of standing up for each other, trying to be so independant sometimes instead of finding that one good girlfriend to lean on, and also the infamous curiosity killed the cat, that would be the gossiping bit. I will be the first to admit I'm guilty of all three, but there's this one thing that women do that just aggravates the shit out of me. We sit around chatting, and someone makes the comment oh I need to lose weight (this isn't directed at any friend in particular, there will be some of you who think I'm referring to you directly, but so many girlfriends say it, that trust me, I'm not talking about you) then it goes on to well my hair is awful, or I wish I had smaller hips, bigger boobs, smaller nose, bigger lips. And the list goes on and on, once again I am guilty of it, but I REALLY REALLY try not to say anything or jump on the band wagon with the competition (we know it is) of who has the most wrong with them or who's the ugliest. Well if you had the skin that I have, yeah well if you had the butt that I have, or the blah blah blah blah....get my point??

Anyway....why can't we be positive women instead of negative all the time? Do we really say these things to ourselves when we're alone and that silent voice is talking in our head? Do we ever look in the mirror and say you know what my feet may be ugly to everyone but truly I don't mind them and actually kind of "like" them...oh my gosh did I say I like my feet?? MUST be something wrong with me....I have toes that are as long as fingers, no joke! It would be so easy to list everything that I think is wrong with me, but I will not. Voicing it somehow makes it more true rather than if it is just a thought in my head. I'd rather say you know what, I love my eyes and straight hair but wait can't do that cause then I'm vain and conceited....once again the cat thing, tear them down before they get you!!

I don't have perfect self esteem and I still have those days where I think I really am the ugliest girl on the planet but a lot of days I feel great about who I am and I feel awesome that I try to take care of myself (being active, eating right, wearing make-up to be presentable...make-up not for everyone but for me it is....lol). And when that small voice starts to nag I am distracted by surrounding myself with the awesome family and friends that I have.

I want to challenge all women to start thinking better of yourself, FORCE yourself to have the good thought not the bad thought. Surround yourself with good things: friends, family, hobbies that give you pleasure, whatever it may be. And who knows maybe one day women will truly stick together and stand up for each other instead of being the first to attack and tear down. Women are the ones who are strong and compassionate, it is US who need to make the world a better place, we can by starting small, with ourselves...change our mentality, be more positive, and take steps to help yourself feel better about you. And that takes me to my title: Woman or Girl, doesn't matter WE need to hold up this world!

Here are some links to further my argument....lol
http://www.campaignforrealbeauty.ca/ (Dove Campaign for Beauty)
http://www.weightwatchers.ca/util/art/index_art.aspx?tabnum=1&art_id=381&inbound=sym (I know it's weight watchers but they have some valid points)
http://www.drphil.com/articles/article/72 (article from dr. phil how to change your internal dialogue)
http://www2.oprah.com/relationships/relationships_content.jhtml?contentId=con_200505_5friends.xml (article from oprah about the 5 friends who every woman should have in their lives)


myrna_weblog said...

Guilty as charged...i can certainly be a "cat" sometimes, even a dog ("bitch"). But I agree that we need to build each other up instead of tearing ourselves down and then tearing others down to make ourselves feel better. I do it, I admit it! Behind closed doors, I do mostly feel good about me, even the physical me. Yeah, I have my moments of self-hate but I consider the alternative (ill-health, for example) and I'm happy.
I'm just thankful that I have good women in my life - the real, genuine ones, the kind you can count on to make you feel good about who you are. Some women only dream of relationships like that.

dafrhug said...

I must admit that I am guilty of all those things as well.....I'm sure every woman out there is at some time in their life. Nobody's perfect.....well....except me sometimes. lol.

Messa1981 said...

Its funny you mention that because I have few friends that are ALWAYS saying negative things about themselves! Sometimes I think women often say something bad about themselves to get a compliment. Some women just crave attention and negative attention is better then none at all. I mean we all have negative thoughts about ourselves and others at times its just how you handle those thoughts! Myself, I think I have ok self esteem. I mean of coarse I PMS and sometimes feel I could be better, but why dwell on what you don't have instead of what you do have if you know what I mean. Then again from a different prospective women have a great pressure on them as well, gotta look the best, gotta dress the best, gotta have the best and I think the saying the more you have the more you want comes into play here as well!!Great Blog Christa!!

Jenny said...

Wow, who unleashed the demon inside. lol.

Just teasing. Guilty as charged, cool e-mail. :)